I thought the Loving-Kindness and
Subtle Mind exercises were entirely different.
My experience with the former did not work out to my expectations. I had better luck with the Subtle Mind
exercise, fortunately. Up until this
practice, I didn’t understand what detaching from a thought, feeling, or image
was like. During the exercise, when an invading thought or image
surfaced, I imagined blowing it away with the out-breath. Another helpful technique was using the sound of the waves to “remove” these random thoughts and images – almost as
though I was sending them off to “ride the tide” and eventually disappear into the abyss. Admittedly, I am far from acquiring a
witnessing mind, but I feel as though I had a tiny glimpse of what it might be
like. I think I might have held on to my
stake (breath) throughout the exercise. I felt that if I loosened my focus
on my breath, even slightly, I would start grasping on to my thoughts. Despite not being able to experience complete
stillness and silence of the mind, I still feel good about eventually being able
to detach from thoughts, and not ruminate as much.
Throughout Dacher’s book, he’s repeatedly
emphasized the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit. In striving for human flourishing – enduring health,
wholeness, and genuine happiness – we must focus on the wellness of every aspect
of the self. We are looking at the
whole, rather than just the sum of parts.
Everything I do, every choice I make, has its consequences on my health
and my way of life. When I start my day
off on a positive note, it usually sets the stage for a great day. When I exercise, chances are that I was able
to pray, I probably avoided unhealthy foods, and I probably was more patient
with others. These positive actions are often
a result of the overall sense of contentment and satisfaction I feel with
actually doing something good for myself.
However, when I allow myself to stay cooped up indoors because it’s
rainy and I have things I need to do at home, anyway, I find that I am less patient
and accommodating with others…my mood will reflect the gloom that is often
characteristic of the Pacific Northwest.
I could see how it would be difficult to reach a Witnessing Mind with very small children. I have a hard time when my children are home from school, and I work during the day. Most times the meditations get done at the end of my day because of the quiet.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed how you described the thoughts being removed with each expiration or going out to sea with the waves. I do not know if I would have thought of it in those terms. I do know, however, that as I breath out, more positive energy, calm, and serenity come in during the meditative process.